In fact, this is the soul of wisdom. Much of the cool girl thing is targeted marketing. It is a story in search of clicks, part of the monetized attention economy the Internet has inflicted upon us in new and ever-evolving ways. Just knowing yourself and being comfortable in your own skin puts you way, way ahead of 90 percent of the population. For example, I've rarely worn make up. Even my daughter, when she was 3 (!) told me, "Mom, you could use a little lipstick sometimes." I laughed, and said, "Yeah, I know. Not gonna happen." All blessings to women with $1,000 worth of cosmetics, but that's just not me. Very uncool! But you know what? I'm happy. And, I bet, so are you.
The 'coolest' thing you can be is original. The pressure to fit into these carefully curated aesthetics circles back on itself and becomes the cliche. Someone who was once 'cool' or 'unique' for reading Tolstoy while having a glass of wine by candlelight, becomes the new basic...not that there's anything wrong with basic, but that's a topic for another day.
As soon as something becomes commercialized, the essence of its oomph disappears. SO just because your love for HEA romance and Seinfeld hasn't been aestheticized (yet) does not mean it isn't cool, it just means people aren't aware of how cool it is.
In fact, this is the soul of wisdom. Much of the cool girl thing is targeted marketing. It is a story in search of clicks, part of the monetized attention economy the Internet has inflicted upon us in new and ever-evolving ways. Just knowing yourself and being comfortable in your own skin puts you way, way ahead of 90 percent of the population. For example, I've rarely worn make up. Even my daughter, when she was 3 (!) told me, "Mom, you could use a little lipstick sometimes." I laughed, and said, "Yeah, I know. Not gonna happen." All blessings to women with $1,000 worth of cosmetics, but that's just not me. Very uncool! But you know what? I'm happy. And, I bet, so are you.
The 'coolest' thing you can be is original. The pressure to fit into these carefully curated aesthetics circles back on itself and becomes the cliche. Someone who was once 'cool' or 'unique' for reading Tolstoy while having a glass of wine by candlelight, becomes the new basic...not that there's anything wrong with basic, but that's a topic for another day.
As soon as something becomes commercialized, the essence of its oomph disappears. SO just because your love for HEA romance and Seinfeld hasn't been aestheticized (yet) does not mean it isn't cool, it just means people aren't aware of how cool it is.
Thank you so so much, this is such a sweet comment and you made my day better. 😭
There's soooooo much to be said for being ourselves, Natalie! Fabulous post! 😊